Comments on: Father Released from Japanese Prison http://www.totaldivorce.com/blog/2009/10/22/father-released-from-japanese-prison/ Divorce Help and Family Law News Wed, 08 Feb 2012 19:51:13 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jo Loh http://www.totaldivorce.com/blog/2009/10/22/father-released-from-japanese-prison/#comment-17829 Jo Loh Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:31:58 +0000 http://www.totaldivorce.com/blog/?p=516#comment-17829 Sadly, it is most often the case where we hear of how the father has been put in this impossible situation. Few can empathize with one who has gone through this. What we do not hear of is what the child has gone through. It is not the case that a loving and caring parent went above and beyond to love and care for the child's mother so the path to the destruction of the family would not have happened in the first place. Typically it is a verbally, emotionally or worst, physically abusive spouse that leads to the destruction of the family. Now, we want all to feel sorry for us and the child. Lawyers will lead the Dad on telling him how it is his right to exert his will. In the end, the child will hate him for attacking his mother. Men, we treated our wives poorly. Our child witnessed it. Now we will attempt to grab our kid and bring them back to our world, taking them away from their mother? Learn and listen. I suffered this fate. I did not engage in sex with other women when I was married. I did not bring the family to financial ruin. I did not cheat, steal or live an immoral life. Materially life couldn't be better with a high six figure income. But I provided nothing to my family in way of showing love and emotional support to my wife; no instead, it was all about the making it and as result my son saw an irritated, ornery, and verbally abusive Dad who left his wife emotionally years before. Then she departs knowing no other way out,,,,and oh the outrage. You suffer. Let the mother and the child live in peace. Support them financially if the opportunity is there. And maybe, just maybe the mother will have a different story about who you are and the type of man we are, and perhaps the day will come when they want to be a part of your life on there terms. I chose to love my wife by letting her live in peace and to support her and my son in any way I can. Just maybe, Joey will look at the situation when he gets older and see Dad did his best in a terrible situation. And perhaps your child will want to see you someday. Continue to listen to lawyers and others about your rights? Don't plan on your child ever wanting to be in your life. Harse, but that is the reality I live. Sadly, it is most often the case where we hear of how the father has been put in this impossible situation. Few can empathize with one who has gone through this. What we do not hear of is what the child has gone through. It is not the case that a loving and caring parent went above and beyond to love and care for the child’s mother so the path to the destruction of the family would not have happened in the first place. Typically it is a verbally, emotionally or worst, physically abusive spouse that leads to the destruction of the family. Now, we want all to feel sorry for us and the child. Lawyers will lead the Dad on telling him how it is his right to exert his will. In the end, the child will hate him for attacking his mother. Men, we treated our wives poorly. Our child witnessed it. Now we will attempt to grab our kid and bring them back to our world, taking them away from their mother? Learn and listen. I suffered this fate. I did not engage in sex with other women when I was married. I did not bring the family to financial ruin. I did not cheat, steal or live an immoral life. Materially life couldn’t be better with a high six figure income. But I provided nothing to my family in way of showing love and emotional support to my wife; no instead, it was all about the making it and as result my son saw an irritated, ornery, and verbally abusive Dad who left his wife emotionally years before. Then she departs knowing no other way out,,,,and oh the outrage. You suffer. Let the mother and the child live in peace. Support them financially if the opportunity is there. And maybe, just maybe the mother will have a different story about who you are and the type of man we are, and perhaps the day will come when they want to be a part of your life on there terms. I chose to love my wife by letting her live in peace and to support her and my son in any way I can. Just maybe, Joey will look at the situation when he gets older and see Dad did his best in a terrible situation. And perhaps your child will want to see you someday. Continue to listen to lawyers and others about your rights? Don’t plan on your child ever wanting to be in your life. Harse, but that is the reality I live.

]]> By: Scott OBara http://www.totaldivorce.com/blog/2009/10/22/father-released-from-japanese-prison/#comment-17569 Scott OBara Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:03:31 +0000 http://www.totaldivorce.com/blog/?p=516#comment-17569 His release video interview was not as vehement or strong as a Father should have been in this interview which would have been a perfect venue to send a slam dunk solid message to his ex-wife..... I would have stated: "I will not stop until I get my kids back".... And at this point, solicit underground help, and would stop at (NOTHING) to sneak them back out of Japan, and back into the U.S..... My message to Dad:.... If at first you don't succeed – try and try again. Forget appealing to Japans legal system, take your kids back by any means, or by force if need be...... Any Father or Mother that truly loves their children, never ever gives up the fight !.... Period – End of story !.... Scott O'Bara...... Middletown, CT His release video interview was not as vehement or strong as a Father should have been in this interview which would have been a perfect venue to send a slam dunk solid message to his ex-wife…..

I would have stated:
“I will not stop until I get my kids back”….

And at this point, solicit underground help, and would stop
at (NOTHING) to sneak them back out of Japan, and back
into the U.S…..

My message to Dad:….

If at first you don’t succeed – try and try again.
Forget appealing to Japans legal system, take your kids
back by any means, or by force if need be……

Any Father or Mother that truly loves their children, never
ever gives up the fight !….

Period – End of story !….

Scott O’Bara……

Middletown, CT

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