October 17th, 2013
By John Clark
Divorce can be a trying time, especially for couples who choose to go it alone, so it may help potential divorcees to consider a few key mistakes to avoid when filing for divorce.
Of course, in order to help avoid some of these mistakes, many people choose to hire a divorce lawyer to help guide them through the difficult process.
A recent report from the Huffington Post suggests that people filing for divorce should avoid five common mistakes while going through the separation process.
First, the report says couples should meet with a financial planner before going through divorce mediation. Sources say many people fight, for example, to keep their homes, when they canâ€™t afford the homes in the first place.
Itâ€™s much wiser to approach mediation, or any divorce negotiation, with a clear idea of the assets you can afford to keep after reaching a divorce agreement. Make sure what youâ€™re fighting to keep is actually worth keeping in the first place.
Second, people preparing for a divorce should get organized before they tell their spouse the news. This doesnâ€™t mean you have to be dishonest, it simply means that you should prepare for the pending financial stress.
To this end, before you inform your spouse of your decision, sources suggest making a detailed inventory of your financial records, credit history, and future job prospects. Planning before a divorce is just as important as the separation process itself.
Third, sources recommend creating a support network early in the divorce process. Filing for divorce may be a very wise decision for many people, but it can also be emotionally trying.
So your best bet is to consult the aid of a therapist, or share your burden with friends or family, well before you begin to experience emotional trauma. Emotional health, just like financial health, is best protected by taking preventative measures.
Fourth, sources advise couples to not file for divorce in the heat of the moment. Some couples may simply be experiencing a difficult time, and would be best advised to take a few weeks to honestly assess the state of their marriage.
Of course, many couples may quickly come to the conclusion that divorce is their best option. Still, itâ€™s important to catalog the specific reasons why you want a divorce, so youâ€™re not making a poor decision.
Finally, sources recommend sticking with your job and not reducing your hours. Judges frown on this behavior, especially when it appears that one spouse is trying to secure more alimony from the other.
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