July 27, 2007 — The tragic murder of a woman whose divorce with her husband/alleged killer was set to become final on July 24th has led the call for new domestic violence legislation in the state of Maine.
Police have said that Nicole Oliver was shot to death earlier this month by her husband TJ, who then killed himself. Family and friends of Nicole Oliver noted that the mother of two children was excited to be moving on from the abusive relationship from her husband after years of being uncertain about doing so for fear of how a divorce would affect her children.
Amanda Vanasse was Nicole Oliver's best friend and said in a WCSH6.com story that Nicole stayed married on behalf of her children Anthony and Thomas. Vanasse specifically said that Oliver wanted her children to be happy and have the opportunity to live with their father.
However, once the abuse became insufferable, Vanasse said that Oliver summoned the courage to divorce her husband. Vanasse also alleged that T.J. Oliver could not stand the fact that he wouldn't be able to control his wife anymore, thus leading to his final actions.
With that in mind, Vanasse and other friends and family of Nicole Oliver are calling for new legislation that would provide better resources for victims of domestic violence in Maine. Specifically, these supporters want to see more free legal services for Maine domestic violence victims.
The group also pointed out to creating a comprehensive support system for people like Nicole Oliver, that is women who were leaving abusive relationships and starting on their own with their child or children. Rev. Wesley Mills, a family friend of Nicole Oliver, said in the story how he would like to see this support system consist of diverse resources for victims of domestic violence, including but not just limited to financial services, child care and vocational networks. Mills hinted at the possibility of calling the desired legislation "Nicole's Law."
While her divorce was set to become final this week, Nicole Oliver's family and friends are not forgetting her on this date. In fact, they will hold a candlelight vigil on her behalf at 6 p.m. on July 24th at a park in Wells, Maine. Visit The Divorce Blog and Total Divorce for any updates on this desired domestic violence legislation in the state.
If you are a victim of domestic violence in Maine, you may contact the state's 24-hour domestic violence hotline at 1-866-834-4357. Whether you live in Maine or somewhere else in the United States and are in an abusive relationship, you may also seek guidance from The National Domestic Violence Hotline via the web or telephone at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).