By Chris Kramer
Although the law tries to minimize the differences that men and women experience in legal proceedings, when it comes to divorce, there are still aspects that are often unique to women and men. For the most part, advice that is good for women is also good for men, but there are some things that might be particularly applicable to women more so than to men.
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One of the main obstacles many women face during a divorce is money, as many married couples share finances. If, for example, you have been raising the children or taking care of the house while your husband earns the income, you might be concerned about having enough money to support yourself. It is very common for a husband to close joint accounts once the divorce process begins.
Even before you initiate a divorce, you should be thinking about where you're going to get money, not only for the divorce but to begin the next phase of your life. If you end up borrowing money from a relative or friend, a good tip is to get the loan in writing.
This isn't just good practice for loans, but particularly in a divorce case if you need to be able to prove that the money you are using is a loan and not your own. Otherwise, the judge might calculate the money in your bank account as yours, and reduce the amount that you may otherwise be entitled to from your spouse.
A divorce will typically involve lots of documents, dates and deadlines. Any oversight on your part can cost you in the end. Keeping a calendar of important dates and list of tasks you need to do are great ways to make sure you don't forget anything.
When you are going through a divorce, it is natural to want to go out and blow off steam with your other single friends. You should be cautious of this particularly if you have kids.
While the divorce is ongoing, your husband might try to make personal attacks against you and your ability to raise the children. While it might be your first night out in years and your kids are staying with your parents, it wouldn't be hard for your husband to try to spin your night out and make it sound much worse than it is.
Erring on the side of caution until the divorce is over is probably a good idea.
Divorce is not easy or fun, but it will end. Once the divorce is over, you will be free to start a new life.