Divorce is often one of the most stressful and difficult experiences a person goes through. This process only gets worse if the pair become bitter and spiteful of each other. This results in a reversion to childish tactics which leave everyone worse off.
So, how can we avoid this and have an amicable divorce? This question isn't as easy to answer as we would all like. Sadly, there will likely be times that your soon-to-be ex-spouse will not be civil to you, regardless of your actions.
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The more petty you act toward your spouse, the more likely he or she will respond in kind. You cannot control how he or she responds to you, but you can control how you act. It may seem cliche, but treat your spouse in the way you wish to be treated, not the way he or she treats you.
This can be especially difficult when your spouse is seemingly doing everything he or she can to make your life as difficult as possible, but resist the urge to respond in kind. The judge in your case might even take notice of your conduct and give you more credibility than your bitter spouse.
It is also important to keep your expectations realistic. When you have shared assets for a long time, you may grow to think of items as yours that really aren't. When you get a divorce, the odds are you won't get everything you want, so prioritize what's most important. But always remember that you still may have a hard time getting what you view as most important.
If your relationship is poor with your spouse and you have to meet with them, to exchange the children for example, pick an appropriate venue. If you know your family residence is going to stir up bad memories or that his or her new place is going to make you upset, then pick a neutral ground to meet.
No matter how frustrated you are with your spouse, never bad mouth him or her to your children. You don’t want to put your children in the middle of a messy divorce. Let your children attempt to maintain a good relationship with your spouse, even if you don't want one.
Relax. It is important to take a few steps back from time to time and make sure your taking care of yourself. This is a stressful time, and thinking about nothing else will begin to drive you crazy.
Try to remember the divorce is supposed to be the start of a new and better life for you. Most people will find the divorce difficult, but try not to worry too much about it, that’s energy you should be spending on yourself and your children.
If you and your spouse are beginning to think about divorce, don't wait another day. Connect with a family law attorney in you area to learn about your rights in a divorce, and how to protect them.